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our dream
What can I Expect?
Our desire is for every Fearless Follower be discipled and then disciple others. In these relationships, followers of Jesus help each other follow Jesus well and fearlessly live the life God has designed them to live.
These relationships may occur between two or more people who decide to walk together, regardless of where a person is at in their current relationship with Jesus.
This is a discipleship initiative and not a program. The tools offered are given only as aids and not requirements.
Steps to getting started:
- Pray about who you’ll approach
- Arrange coffee or lunch with the person
- Share what you’re hoping to do together
- Use this Conversation Guide & the information below to get started
If you’re new to our churches or have questions, contact us at discipleship@fearlessfollower.org
How to Start
Being a Discipler (Trainer)
- Be transparent and sharing your life and relationship with Jesus
- Provide a holistic approach to discipleship: emotional, spiritual, relational and physical health.
- Offer a listening ear, humble spirit and faithful presence to the person(s) you disciple.
Being a Disciple (Trainee)
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- Being spiritually hungry and have a desire to grow in your relationship with Jesus.
- Willing to learn from another person incorporating a Learn – Do – Coach approach.
- Transparency is key, be honest with yourself and another person.
Meeting Format, What To Do?
Regardless of the topic you’re discussing, there are a few things you should aim to discuss/do in each of your discipling conversations. Here’s a generic conversation guide to help you out.
What to do when you meet together:
Coaching Debrief (5-10 min)
- Coach is reviewing and reflecting on what we did since our last discussion.
SP3 Check-in: How are you doing in these areas? (10-20 min)
- Spiritually? (interacting with Jesus, other Jesus followers, and those who don’t follow)
- Personally? (Self-care, Relationships, Parenting)
- Professionally? (Career, Financially)
- Physically? (Mind, Exercise, Eating)
Conversation Guide: Use any of the guides provided by our church (20-30 min)
- Learn is (re)discovering information.
- Do is acting on what we learned.
- Coach is reviewing what we do together and evaluating how it was done.
SP3 Check-out: How can the things we talk about help you in these areas? (5-10 min)
- Spiritually? (interacting with Jesus, other Jesus followers, and those who don’t follow)
- Personally? (Self-care, Relationships, Parenting)
- Professionally? (Career, Financially)
- Physically? (Mind, Exercise, Eating)
Prayer (5-10 min)
- Pray for each other based on your conversation.
- Pray for your conversations and relationships with those who don’t follow Jesus.
Conversational Do’s
- Aim to relationally connect with God and each other.
- Honor each other’s time, having a focused conversation each time you connect.
- Share your story and personal experiences to model depth and intimacy.
- Encourage each other toward growth, creating a gracious and kind environment.
Conversational Don’ts
- Don’t feel guilty if you don’t get through everything. There’s no need to rush.
- Don’t teach the other person – discover God’s truths and next steps together.
- Don’t expect to find a good rhythm in your first conversation.
- Don’t try to change someone: that’s the Holy Spirit’s job. Your job is to love well.
What to Talk About
Respond
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What is a Christian?
Prayer
Bible Reading
Hearing God
Trusting God
Relate
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Being Honest with Each Other
Loving One Another
Forgiving One Another
Reach
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Restore
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Pursuing Peace and Prosperity
Showing Mercy
Giving to the Needy
Replicate
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Training Resources
3 Circles
3-Circles Life Conversation Guide Demonstration from North American Mission Board on Vimeo.
Learn / Do / Coach
Content: Scripture, 5 R’s and other resources
Do is acting on what we learned.
Where: In the contexts of the places you live, work, play and worship
Coach is reviewing what we did and evaluating how it was done.
Any tool may be used, but here’s a simple coaching tool to use.
Score your experience on a scale of 1 (poor) to 5 (excellent).
Why didn’t you pick a lower number?
What could be done to raise your score one number next time?
What help do you need from me to help you get there?
Who is Your Three (Go—Listen—Invite)?
Go and seek out people who don’t know Jesus, ask God to make them known to you.
Listen to people and get to know their past experiences and current circumstances.
Invite the, in some way, to be part of your life; you are the hands and feet of Jesus.
- Invite them to your home, church group or the weekend gathering.
- In sharing your Jesus story use this resource Life On Mission (lifeonmissionbook.com/conversation-guide)
Reading The Bible
Read the passage through 2 times. Make general observations about repetition, keywords, etc.
Listen as you read, or perhaps after you’ve read, consider what God is teaching you through this passage. Some people find it helpful to journal or pray during this time.
Do what you’ve learned. Once you’ve read through the passage and determined something God’s asking you to do or stop doing, be courageous enough to act on what you’ve learned.
If you don’t have a regular Bible reading rhythm, check out this plan — https://fearlessfollower.org/bible-reading-plan/
Other Resources
Other discipleship materials to check out:
- The Apprentice Series (Good & Beautiful God, Good & Beautiful Life, Good & Beautiful Community)
- Discipleship Essentials
- Rooted
- Family on Mission
- Family on Mission: Small Group Discussion Guide
Articles and Helpful Tips